Bride and Groom Break Up Before Wedding, She Gets Mad at Sister-in-Law for Canceling $700 Wedding Gift

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    Font - AITA for canceling a wedding gift when the wedding was canceled? My husband's sister was supposed to be married in September. I chose an item from the registry, but the exact item she had added had a weird detail (she had explicitly mentioned previously needing option A, but on the registry she accidentally listed option B) so I asked her to make sure I got what she needed. So, she knew exactly what I was planning to gift.
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    Font - Sadly they have now broken up. The gift hadn't shipped yet anyway, so I canceled it. This past week she reached out to me about it. Since she knew I was purchasing it and we live far away, she was concerned that it had been delivered but someone had stolen it. When I explained that I had canceled it, she was pretty upset.
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    Font - My MIL has now reached out to us about it and feels that I was unkind to cancel the order. She feels that since my SIL is clearly going through a difficult time, and the holidays are approaching, it would've been more appropriate to let the gift reach her anyway.
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    Font - Obviously these are unfortunate circumstances, but this was a substantial gift ($700) and pretty well above the threshold of what I'd normally spend for a typical holiday gift.
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    Font - (Before it comes up, I'll mention short and sweet that my husband is in the military and currently deployed, so that's why he isn't a big piece in this puzzle and I'm soloing this awkward adventure).
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    Font - JustStephanie 13 hr. ago Partassipant [1] NTA. When a wedding is cancelled, it would only be polite for the bride and groom to return the wedding gifts. That's the norm. ETA: Please do not feel guilty about cancelling the gift. 18.9k Reply Shar
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    Font - Rbuff187 13 hr. ago Partassipant [1] Actually, etiquette dictates that when wedding gifts are rec'd and the wedding is called off, gifts are required to be returned. Is a gift really going to soothe the jilted bride? NTA!! 937 Reply Share
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    Font - JustStephanie. 13 hr. ago Partassipant [1] That's basically what I wrote. When a wedding is cancelled, gifts should be returned. 4.1k Reply
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    Font - Ur_Just Spare Pa rts . 8 hr. ago Im almost positive that if the couple no longer wishes to be married, it is customary for them to return any gifts they may have already received.
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    Font - SeasonPositive6771. 6 hr. ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [38] You are correct. If a wedding is delayed, you can keep them. But if a wedding is canceled altogether, you are actually supposed to return all shower and engagement gifts as well as wedding gifts.
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    Font - Most people are willing to overlook the shower and engagement gifts, especially considering the fact that most of them are already in use by the time my wedding is canceled. But wedding gifts should absolutely be returned in every situation. 216 Reply Share
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    Rectangle - ben543250 10 hr. ago I don't know. A new gravy boat can be pretty useful for catching tears. 676 Reply Share
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    Font - ottersonanisland. 10 hr. ago Sorry but I disagree, you have to ladle the tears into the gravy boat otherwise it drips down the sides. Gravy boats are more meant for dispensing, she should've put a funnel on her registry if she was looking for collection utility Reply Share 355
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    Font - ben543250 9 hr. ago Well then, by all means, don't cancel the silver ladle you ordered!! 117 Reply Share
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    Font - whyamIhereWITHme 11 hr. ago And Who puts 700$ gift on registery and who buys a 700$ gift? If someone demanded that from me, i would just ignore it and bring whatever i see right. ΝΤΑ 698 Reply Share

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